Every adoption story is special and unique. We value the perspectives and insights of everyone involved in the adoption process. Adoption Bridges of Kentuckiana has been very lucky to have several individuals share their insights and experiences with us. We hope you find their stories helpful and informative.”
Birth Parent Stories
“It has been a couple of years since I placed my baby for adoption and I continue to have a great experience. My Adoption Bridges counselor was so nice. She didn’t pressure me into decisions. She answered my questions and helped me talk through my situation. After I made my choices, she gave me support and helped me create a plan. I was confident that I was doing what was right for me, my baby, and my family. I developed a great relationship with the adoptive parents I chose. I am very thankful for this experience.”
“My experience as being a birth mother has been wonderful. My husband and I both agreed that adoption was what we wanted to do. Since we already had three children, we decided that we would give someone else the blessing that they had been waiting for. We contacted Adoption Bridges in my third trimester. They didn’t just help with placing the baby. They helped us with bills that added up due to the pregnancy and even with the lawyer for the adoption, which was great. They were also there for support. I kept in touch with the agency on everything that I could from doctor visits to false labor. No matter what time of the day, they were always there to respond. When it came to choosing a family, we simply wanted to be able to give a blessing to a family that was unable to have children on their own. At first we didn’t think we wanted to meet the family, but we decided to meet at the hospital after I delivered. After we saw how happy they were… that their hearts were filled with the joy of having a baby, it made us feel good about our choice. I honestly think that I would do it again because of how much we changed a family’s life. As I’ve said, my husband and I are glad that we made this choice, because not only did it change our lives, it made such a positive impact in the lives of another family.”
“Adoption was not an easy choice, but I am really thankful for the support and guidance I got from Adoption Bridges of Kentuckiana to help me follow through. As far as what I had to do, adoption was not complicated. I got explanations and answers to my questions. When I was ready, I signed paperwork and picked adoptive parents along with the birthmother. We were able to meet them and get to know each other before the baby was born. After the birth, I went to court to terminate parental rights so the baby’s adoption could be finalized. The judge thanked me for stepping up to make sure she would be cared and provided for. Some time has passed, but that comment still stays with me. I think of the child and adoptive parents all the time. I will be forever grateful to them for helping me break a cycle of bad choices that had gone on in my family for generations. I wanted better for my daughter and adoption helped me give her all she needed at a time when I wasn’t able to. I am glad the birthmother and I chose Adoption Bridges to help and support us. Every time I receive photos and letters, I know we made the right choice.”
“A lot of people ask me how I could do it…give my baby up for adoption. I always tell them I didn’t give him up. I chose to give him what he deserved and what I was unable to give him at the time. It was hard, but I did it because I love him.”
“I feel glad to be able to bless the adoptive parents’ lives and to bless my children with a life of peace and a lot less hardship. I know it won’t be easy, but this decision is best since I knew I needed to think beyond myself to the children’s security, health, and well-being. I am not in any way embarrassed by this adoption decision. I will not let myself be ashamed and I describe myself more as proud to give this family this opportunity. It is a hard decision but being so impressed with the adoptive parents I chose has made this easier, and I will always be comfortable with my choice.”
Adoptive Parent Stories
“A day never goes by without my thinking about the amazingly brave and selfless woman who gave my son life. A little over five years ago, one mother looked into a beautiful, perfect, and chubby-cheeked face and, with tears streaming down her face, handed him into another mother’s hopeful, waiting, but ever-so-empty arms. We both knew this could possibly be the last time she would ever see him. And as I walked out of that hospital with this tiny new life in my arms, I knew I would never be able to thank her for the gift of making me a mother that day. It was, without a doubt, one of the most truly beautiful things I have ever witnessed in my life. The love of a mother knows NO bounds.”
“Our story begins when my husband and I were married and immediately began to try to start a family. After 4 ½ years of unsuccessful fertility treatments we came to the conclusion that adoption was the answer to our prayers for children. We contacted Adoption Bridges of Kentuckiana and were immediately impressed with the passion and professionalism the staff possessed for the adoption process. We came away from our first meeting with a very real understanding that adoption was not for the faint of heart but if we utilized ABOK that we would have the baby we’d been longing for.”
“It’s all scary and unknown. And the adoption process seems so big and overwhelming. Have faith that you’ll be on the other side of the process in time, and you’ll just be a family. It’s worth it. It’s all totally worth it.”
“Our first son was adopted through the agency within 6 months and our second son was adopted 2 years later.Adoption is very emotionally charged. The birthmother needs support, the adoptive parents need training and guidance and the child needs a future. The staff at ABOK is very dedicated to each step of the process and their passion is unrelenting. Words cannot describe the happiness our family has experienced through adoption – ABOK was part of that and for that we are grateful.”
“I am sure that as you view this website, you are experiencing a range of emotions that more than likely include uncertainty, worry, fear, and sadness. First of all, I want to thank you for even considering the idea of placing your child for adoption. You are already showing your love and concern for your child by exploring the idea of partnering with Adoption Bridges of Kentuckiana to find the best home for your baby.
At almost 35 years old, I am proud to say that I am adopted. My birthmom made the selfless decision to put my needs before her own and trusted an adoption agency to help her find a home for me. In the late 1970′s, most adoptions were closed, meaning that there was no contact between the birthmother and adoptive parents. That was how my adoption was handled.
The agency placed me with my adoptive parents and I could not have asked for a more wonderful family. I have two parents that love me and did an excellent job in providing for me and raising me to be the person that I am today. I am blessed to have a younger sister (who is also adopted) that is my best friend. I had grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins that I adored. I went to college on a full scholarship, married a wonderful guy, and I am the proud mom to the best little boy in the world, with another one on the way!
If there is one thing that I could communicate with my birthmom, it would be my gratitude and love for her for allowing me to have the life that I have led. I would want her to know that her decision provided me with so many opportunities to have a family, friends, education, life experiences, and a husband and son who are everything to me.
If there is one thing I could change about my adoption, it would be that my birthmom and adoptive parents could have had the opportunity to meet and get to know each other before I was born. That is why I am such an advocate for the way that Adoption Bridges works with families. As a birthmom, YOU get to choose the home for your baby. If you wish, you will also have the opportunity to meet the adoptive parents, possibly spend time with them before the baby arrives, and receive regular updates and photos of your baby.
I think that if my birthmom had experienced those opportunities, it could have provided more reassurance and affirmation that she had made the right decision for me. Thank you for loving your child so much. I pray that you find peace and comfort in your decision and the knowledge that your child will be raised in a loving family. There is no better gift that my birthmom could have given me.”
Stories of Siblings Through Adoption
“I was twelve years old when my sister became a part of our family. I remember the phone call like it was yesterday. The adoption agency said a two week old baby girl was in need of a loving family. It remains one of the happiest days of my life.
One quote I have always loved is “You don’t have to share DNA to be a family.” This really hit home with me after the adoption. I have never thought of my sister as being adopted. She is and always will be my little sister. She has grown into a smart, talented and beautiful young lady and I am very proud of her.”